Category: Let's talk
If you had or have a girlfriend/boyfriend, wife/husband, or a cignificant other, and you knew you were going to die, would you want them to find someone else, someone knew after you died, or would you want them to go on living with just the memories of what you guys havd?
Well, let's see, I know for a fact that I would be selfish and want my baby to marry no one else after me! I know that's selfish of me, but I wouldn't want to marry anyone else if he passed away! lol, just my thoughts!
I would not want my significant other to sit around and mope if I died. I would want him to live, laugh, love and move on with his life and be happy. Certainly I don't want to be forgotten. I would do the same thing.
Agreed with Joanne.
agreed with the two previous posts :)
i don't know if my GF would react too well if i were to die, we're too attached to think about being parted right now
Wow, as much as it would kill me to see her with someone else, I'd definitely wouldn't want her to not move on. I already told her though, if you guys are doing it, and you feel something tugging at your feet, it's me, lol.
hahahah Daniel! My man tells that to me all the time! heheheh And yes. Of course I'd want him to be happy and if that means not being lonely then that's fine with me. I know I will always have a special place in his heart even if I were to die so it really doesn't bother me if he were to fall in love again after I was gone. Yes. I am one of those who believe that you can fall in love multiple times... All that bullshit about meeting "the one" and not being able to fall in love after losing him again is just really closed-minded in my oppinion. lol And as long as he isn't screwing her when I'm alive, that's all right with me. hehehhehe I know that I wouldn't want to be alone for the rest of my life if he were to die now--God forbid!
If you truly love the person you're with, you'll want them to be happy. If that means not finding anyone else after your death and just holding on to what you had, then that's great, but I'm sure I'd want to find someone else if my partner died before me. It doesn't mean you love them any less, and to me, wanting your partner to be alone for the rest of their life after you die demonstrates more selfishness and insecurity than anything else. So yes, I would want my partner to find someone else to love and be loved by in return if that's what they need to be happy and go on with life.
I would want my wife to find someone else, for sure. In fact I'd wish she wouldn't wait until I die. She's getting on my nerves. Y'all I'm kidding about that last part. I keep telling her that she's going to die first anyway, so I'd hope she'd want me to find someone else. Someone young, cute, and blonde. kidding again. she doesn't have to be blonde. smiles.
To love someone is to want the best for them.
i have always and will always want my man to be happy. So if that means moving on and being with someone else, that's good. Just know if you pick some bitch, that i don't think is treating you right, I will be right there to haunt her! hehehe smiles. In saying that. i don't know if I would ever be able to be with another man. It's hard to say!
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Better believe me when I say, if I were married and had the good fortune to die first (cos I ain't going to the big house for killing the witch!) then she's definitely gonna be alone forever. Why? Cos I got a digital chastity belt and I'm taking that password with me to the grave and beyond! Ha ha
But would you *really* say to your loved-one "If I die, I want you to remain alone, miserable and with only our memories to keep you warm at night"? Do you have the right? And more importantly, what can you do about it? I think we would all move on, with their blessing. Perhaps the more pertinent question is: how long would you expect your loved one to wait before moving on.
I just realised, when I said 'chastity belt', that's got the word 'tity' in it. Smirk. Some say I'm childish. I don't think I'm that mature.
lmao dusty! I agree though, as much as it might hurt to even think of the one you love with someone else, it's selfish. We all gotta move on eventually, but if the girl my man decides to be with after is bad to him, I'll haunt her just like previous posters said lolol
as for me, I really don't know. I say no now, but I might say differently if I was actually in that predicament...
Two things come to mind when reading this question. First of all, isn't this one of those questions women wake their men up at three in the morning to ask them? Why they feel the need to bring it up in the middle of the night and why the issue is so pressing is beyond me. Second, whether my life partner would choose to marry again or stay alone after I died would be irrelevant to me because I'd be dead, so I'd have, oh let's see, how about absolutely zero influence on the situation. She's an adult woman, let her do what she pleases, for Chrissakes! Hahahahahaha!
I feel I would have no right to hold hostage the rest of their life with the ghost of Cala past. If it makes him happy, then I'd love him enough to understand that lonliness sucks. Noah had it right when he sent the creatures two by two, we all need someone.
well, if I was going to die, I'd want her to still have memories of the good times, but yet not be alone. so I would let her fine someone else, or she can stay alone if she wanted. since I'm not going to be there, it's not my choice on what she should do aftir my time has come.
Well, considering the huge age difference between my boyfriend and I (I'm 24 and he's 62) it'll actually be reversed. However, even if we were of similar ages, if I were to die before him, I'd definitely want him to find someone else, as I know he would for me. It would be selfish and wrong, in my opinion, to expect him to just live with memories. As a matter of fact, I'd make him promise to at least try to find someone. It's healthy that way, even though it may take a long while because of the pain etc.